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Get Your Soul on the Agenda

There are sssoooooo many reasons why I want you to come to these workshops. So many.

But they all roll up into one big one - because I want the best for you. Sounds cheesy right? But true nonetheless. I love helping others. I love lifting you up. I love helping you release. And I love, love, love helping you re-connect with yourself and FEEL your potential.

When I share the Desire Map work with people, their faces light up, they smile, I can see their hearts engaging. I can see their body being flooded with “I want this because I already feel good just talking about it!”. Every. Single. Time.

I want that for you.

Desire Mapping is a nurturing experience. It is the emotional equivalent of an all day spa-retreat. It’s the thing you do to care for yourself, to renew and rejuvenate and to send the message that says “I give a shit” about me, about how I feel and about how my life pans out.

The Get Your Soul on the Agenda workshop is an opportunity for you to get super clear on what you want, and how to make it happen. You don’t need any experience. Just turn up, ready and willing. I’ll bring the tools, the space, the guidance and the love.

The foundation of this work is the iconic Desire Map. A structured process of enquiry into five life areas, that draws out your core. Your deepest motivators. Your Core Desired Feelings. Wrapped around this process are Emotional Anatomy, Emotional Freedom Technique and Essential Oils, creating a truly unique experience that nurtures you with strength and focus. Aromatic anchoring is paired with EFT to create new emotional memories, making your Core Desired Feelings more accessible and creating visceral, powerful responses in your body. After all, it is the vessel that brings your desires to life!

Check out this sneak peek for a breakdown of the workshop and all that is included. Then head over to eventbrite and grab your ticket. The year ahead has never looked better!

Join me: Saturday January 12, 2019 @ Santosha Yoga Space, Paddington.

Introduction to The Desire Map

A five-day exploration in identifying your deepest desires. Based on the best-selling book The Desire Map by Danielle LaPorte

You want it.

 Aspiring. Hoping. Reaching. So you make a plan to get it. The bucket list. To-do lists. Objectives. Goals.

 

Except…

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You’re not chasing the goal, you’re chasing a feeling you hope the goal will give you. So what if you first get clear on how you actually want to feel in your life, and then set your intentions? Game-changer.

 

Created by Danielle LaPorte, The Desire Map is a tool for holistic living. It puts your Core Desired Feelings at the heart of your goal setting and life planning. And it all begins with YOUR FEELINGS.
 

Want a taste? Introduction to The Desire Map is a five-day digital exploration in identifying your deepest desires. It’s the first part of the Desire Mapping process.

 

Desire to Feel Better? Yeah, you do.

“Knowing how you want to feel is the most potent form of clarity you can have. Generating those feelings is the most powerful thing you can do with your life.”

— Danielle LaPorte, Author & Speaker

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WHAT YOU GET FROM THIS COURSE:

    ‣ Daily exercises sent to you for tuning into your inner desires.

    ‣ Bonus recordings for some auditory love.

    ‣ Clarity on how you feel and how you want to feel.

Here’s to feeling MORE of what you want! xx

Courage, Chakra's, Emotional Anatomy and Oils

Practical tools to empower you to be courageous

COURAGEOUS. When was the last time you felt it?

I am working with women all the time who are brave, strong, intelligent and impactful - yet they regularly show up feeling fearful and anxious. Worried about who they are, whether they're doing the right thing, are they enough? It's crazy and yet it's so common, myself included!

Recently, I was reminded of the courage within. As our eldest took an enormous leap of faith in letting go of one her bedtime rituals that she has held onto for months and months - terrified of letting it go. She would tell me, "no, I'm too scared" and I would get so frustrated knowing how capable she was, and yet she didn't know it.

More recently I felt a shift in her. She's been more confident, taking more risks, being more independent so I decided to raise it again with her, and again she said "no, I'm too scared". This time though I guided her to focus on her body, walked her through some affirmations and drew the links for her about how she felt different depending on what thoughts and words she chose to express. We practiced using positive words to replace fear, and she noticed the difference in her body. So with a gentle nudge she chose to have a go, to trust in her body, to have faith in herself.

And her PRIDE. Oh my goodness! Heart explosions everywhere. Literally, I felt my heart expand both for how she felt about herself, and how I felt about her. In this moment she has conquered the world and she is masterful. And I thought "my goodness she's so brave!". Am I that brave?

Quite literally, the heart chakra is all about acceptance, self-acceptance.  Courage and pride are the most magnified expressions of self-acceptance.

It reminded me of how much courage we have as children. When the world is so big, new people, places, concepts, skills, feelings everywhere - and yet we ask them to be brave. EVERY DAY. And they are, repeatedly.

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Then we grow up and somewhere between then and now, we get full of fear. Our horizons narrow and we focus on what we feel we can't do, what could go wrong, what other people will think. EVEN THOUGH, everyday we ARE being courageous. Every day we are navigating new terrain, mastering new skills in life, growing ourselves, doing our best.

Courage is not something that you get from the store. It is within. And like any muscle, it gets stronger the more attention we give and the more exercise it gets.

Focus on your courage. Know that you are enough. You are capable. You can do it. Give your energy to that which serves you, starve the parts that don't.

NEVER STOP BEING COURAGEOUS.

What to do when you’re not feeling courageous? Well, first step is to tune in - what’s going on, what fears are surfacing? Getting clear about the fear supports you to be targeted in your response. Just blanket going hell for leather without understanding what’s motivating you is both dangerous and ineffective. Courage sits in the heart chakra, but fear sits in the root. So it is worth looking at long term fears that you hold regarding your security, foundations, your belonging and survival. Keep enquiring and exploring until you hit on the issue that feels right. You’ll know it, we all do. Sometimes we don’t want to accept it, but that doesn’t mean we don’t know it. Challenge number one, don’t turn away ;)

I always use a rounded approach to working through growth because there is never a single answer. No all curing pill. No one inspirational quote. It takes a suite of tools and I’m passionate about empowering myself and others with a full hardware store in our back pockets! So, with personal growth and busting through fear in mind, these are my go to’s:

  • Oils, oils, oils: essential oils have been used for millennia to shift mood and feelings, and dōTERRA has the highest quality in the market. In order to get an effect from an oil it MUST be 100% pure, otherwise forget it, your human cells know the difference between mama nature and synthesis (check the research that confirm this here). For this kind of space I use oils that support a sense of safety, belonging and transformation and that ground me back to the earth, stop me from running away with my emotions. Manuka for being upheld and supported, Marjoram for connection, Cedarwood for community, Bergamot for self-acceptance, Arborvitae and Balance for grounding and reconnecting me to the energy of the earth and DDR Prime for transformation.

I hear you, you reckon it’s crazy. These oils can’t make you feel this way! On the contrary, these oils are your fast track to hijacking your emotions and taking control. As I said, millennia. These descriptions are derived from a combination of historical use (how people have felt in response to using each essential oil or plant), and biochemistry (what pathways are influenced by the essential oil chemistry, and what neuro-chemical changes occur as a result). Ancient wisdom meets, and surpasses modern science :)

  • Emotional Anatomy: lean into who you are. Develop your understanding of your over-riding mind-body type and use that insight to connect with your deepest potential.

So much of my personal story is tied up in my Base and Sacral chakras and the more I understand it, the more I can see it expressing itself, the more I can give it the space to be processed and let go, or integrated. I now use this information to choose what type of yoga I do, what kind of foods I eat, what time of day I do certain activities etc., so that I’m working with my unique expression rather than blindly adopting whatever is going in the hope that some benefit will rub off.

  • Desire Mapping: far from just being an awesome planning tool, identifying your Core Desired Feelings is another way of facilitating behavioural change. How many times do you commit to some goal, some new behaviour (exercise, saying no etc.) only to start out strong and then completely fall off the wagon? The way Desire Mapping happens, the guided process of enquiry, its deep. It gives you the opportunity to connect with what makes you tick, what drives you, in a truly heart-centred way. And once you have them, those Core Desired Feelings become your beacon, your talisman. Every decision you make, every move, every action is held up against these feelings and given a hell yes, or a no way! Your guidance system is dialled up to full throttle, and your intuition finally gets a permanent seat at the table. Do it.

And if I happen to uncover something that really stirs up my emotions, then I’ll use EFT and more oils, to support me to process and get to the root of the issue. Do you know what I love most about these tools? Anyone can use them. These are all totally accessible SELF help tools which is awesome, because taking responsibility and helping yourself is empowering. It is the very definition of empowerment. If you want to learn more about Emotional Anatomy, oils or Desire Mapping you can join my facebook group (search for Team Alchemy) - it’s free and there’s a bunch of resources, short courses and videos to guide you in your journey.

Big love to your bad-ass xx

Stay the course. Live your truth.

It's incredible how life weaves its way around. In the moment we think we know so much, but rarely is that the case.

20 years ago I was finishing my undergraduate studies in Psychology. I recall the subject of one of my final assignments - to come up with my own personal theory of behaviour.  Why do people do what they do?  At the time I was confounded.  What a ridiculously large, looming, life question to ask of a final year student!  I struggled with the inquiry because it wasn't something I could research my way out of.  This was a quest to put myself, my thoughts and inner-most feelings out there.  I needed to connect with myself and my results were going to be judged.  Discomfort was an understatement.  Still, once I realised what had to be done I took a deep breath and dived in.  All or nothing.  Because I'm kinda like that.

And so.  When I dug deep down to see what I thought, I came up with this - everyone does everything to feel better.  Simple.  EVERYONE does EVERYTHING to feel BETTER.  

Sometimes that thing is genuine, heartfelt and totally right.  And sometimes that thing is heinous, or malicious, or self-serving, or back-handed and totally wrong - born out of pain, misguided blame or even good intention.  A man kills his wife because he thinks it will wipe out the pain of her infidelity.  A girl steals a pair of tights from the shop because she thinks she'll feel worthy as part of the group, like all the others.  A mother sacrifices her truth because she thinks she'll feel better working a 9-5 job to put food on the table rather than following her dream to be an artist.  A young woman commits herself to a violent relationship for years because she thinks her love will save the man from himself, even if she couldn't save her father that way.  You see where I'm going?  This stuff can get deep.  The idea that we are all driven by our desire to feel good, comfortable, centred, at peace.  That looks very different to each of us.  I loved my theory, it made sense to me.  Turns out the academic establishment didn't agree, and while I passed, it wasn't with flying colours like I was used to.  I was buuuuuurrrrrrnnnnneed.  Like in a charred kind of way.  I felt completely invalidated and thanks to my rather tenuous grip on self-esteem, I automatically accepted that I got it wrong and buried the idea.  Except that I couldn't actually bury it.  I just kept it to myself.  The concept kept coming back to me.  Through my work, relationships, children.  And as the universe goes, the idea was brought back to me.  Front and centre.  In the form of The Desire Map.

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Well ho-lee shit.  It's like my theory underwent a beautiful, articulate makeover and was gifted back to me.  The Desire Map, crafted from the heart, soul and womb of the supremely bad-ass Danielle LaPorte, is your guide to soul freedom.  Coaching you through the process of unfurling the veils of the carefully crafted script that is your life, The Desire Map opens up the space for you to BE.  To just BE.  In all your magnificently imperfect glory.  Dive deep and connect with what truly bubbles away inside, makes you tick.  The you that silently drives all your choices and behaviours but doesn't get a voice, over the analytical, logical mind - your 'should' brain.  I should follow my career path because I've worked so hard, it's a steady income and people will think I'm a flake if I leave it.  I should definitely not start up a network marketing biz in essential oils because my whole professional world will think I've lost the plot.  I should stay with my partner even though it feels like we're just teammates, because it will hurt too much to leave.  I should lose 10, 20, 30 kgs because society tells me I'm more acceptable, successful, worthy if I'm thinner.  How's it workin' out for ya?  Feeling a little weighed down?  A little apathetic?  A little un-inspired?  No shit.

Somewhere along the way we lost our innocent, curious connection to ourselves and our world.  We stopped wondering, dreaming, aspiring and got right into the doing of achievement, progression and maintenance.  Well it's time to step out and reclaim your life.  Desire has it's place in our hearts and in our energy.  When we connect to it, we forge a light that is so bright it cannot help but be a beacon.  Desire operates from the depths of our souls, so discovering our Core Desired Feelings and placing them front and centre of our lives, means we wrap all our energy, momentum, action and direction, around our Soul.  Cool, huh?  Beautiful in it's simplicity.  What does it mean?  Alignment.  It means that everything you do in your life will be in alignment with your true purpose.  And why is that important?  Happiness, bliss, ease.  Living your life in alignment with your true purpose brings happiness, bliss and ease.  Note this is not 'eas-y'.  Ease is about going with the grain, rather than against it. About leaning in when the earth tremors beneath you, and finding your balance as a result.  And we ALL need more of that.

I am psyched to be able to bring The Desire Map to you.  Buy the book.  Read it.  Grab your besties, book club, gang or family and come to a workshop.  This is the kind of work that is wonderful in communion, sharing the exploration of what desire means in your life, work, relationships, body, creativity and essence.  Laughing at the absurdity of some of our lies and marvelling in the warmth and honesty of truth, expansion and growth.  This work is so necessary right now.  In this moment in history when the feminine intelligence, wisdom and expression is being called to usher us into a new paradigm.  Connect.  To yourself, each other, your desires.  It's time.